The other day I had the honor of being a part of a relationship panel for the youth ministry at my church, called, The Source. One of the things we talked about, was being careful who you let into your life and heart. You reap what you sow.

Not everyone is for you. Just because he says you’re pretty doesn’t mean he’s worth the rest of life.

Choose wisely who you let into your world. Not every first date you’ll go on means they’re the one. The one person I “loved”, before meeting my husband is far gone from me. In my young age I only saw what was in front of me. Love isn’t the Cinderella movie I saw growing up. There aren’t birds in the air leading me to my prince. It takes discernment and self control to find what is right. And to hold off when it’s not. What “feels” right in the moment isn’t necessarily the right thing. The fairytales never show you the, after-after part. That takes work. The behind the scenes work isn’t super appealing to watch on screen. That kind of work some flee from.

It’s more than, “Dang, he’s hot!” or, “He’s the only one who will ever love me.”.

It’s.... “Will he be a good father? Is he going to treat our family right or provide in the areas we can’t? Is this guy going to bail when he’s bored or fight for what he vowed to keep close and protect?”.

My daughter had a MAJOR and I mean, major melt down the other night. It was late and she was done. I couldn’t handle it. My husband walked upstairs, told her to sit down and gently asked her to tell him what was really the matter. She instantly calmed down and told him. He gave her tips for the next time she lost control. They hugged each other and she went to bed. He stepped in and handled what I couldn’t. What I was failing at, he said, “I got your back”. He also moved in the position God has honored him with. A father.

It’s not like this all the time. And that’s ok. But this time, this time right here, shaped our daughter at that moment.

I thought to myself, “Wow, I chose wisely”. He’s leaving a mark on our children. We are far from perfect, but we serve a perfect God. He has chosen to put God first in everything. Nights like this one, prove it.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how cute he is or how he gives you the butterflies, it’s really about what kind of character he has.

You don’t want to just let anyone in. Other people down your family line need you to choose with godly wisdom, not just with your feelings at the moment.

To my the man chose...Thank you.

*the picture is of poor quality because I snapped it quickly. I hope you can still enjoy the moment.